Since this blog is mostly my thought on relationships and all, I thought we could talk a little bit about breakups.
They say that breaking up is hard to do. And now I know, I know that its true. Had to throw that in!
Sometimes you can just feel it coming. You haven't been talking as much, she's not making any time for you.
You start questioning your feelings and wondering if you should even be with them.
But breakups can also be a positive. It can lead to a time of reflection. Seeing what led to the relationship ending can help you see what areas in your life you may need to change. Other times it can lead to a nice long sulk, where no one can get you out of your funk.
I've been through both good and bad breakups. The best was when I was just sitting talking with the girl, and we both just decided that this thing wasn't working out. Heck, we're still friends. The worst? I think that was the one where I found out someone was cheating on me. I've totally forgiven that girl, though. It was years ago. Most were somewhere in the middle I guess. I tend to not take them very well at first, but I get over things kinda quickly.
While on your quest to find "THE ONE" you will probably experience this a few times. Don't let it get you down,though. It just means that there is someone better out there.
So share some stories! I'd love to hear from you guys.
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7 years ago
Hey Randy, it's Kali. I have a recent story for you. This might sound a bit whiny, because it really just finished out last week.
ReplyDeleteI was friends with this guy for a little while, and we started seeing each other around the middle of January. We were both really happy at first (...well, I was, and I'm lead to believe he was?) but it was pretty awkward the entire time... you know. Sometimes it's hard to make the transition from friend to significant other.
Anyway, he was fine at first... but then it seemed like he was avoiding me. Two weeks into a relationship. So, I confronted him about it, and he reassured me that he was happy. Then, about a week ago (right before Valentine's Day, so about a month into the relationship) I receive a TEXT MESSAGE from him saying that he "didn't feel an emotional connection" and didn't think we were ultimately compatible. That he "hadn't been happy for a while" (...we'd been together a month? How long is a while?) and so forth.
He wasn't sure what he wanted to do about it, and just sort of left me hanging for a day
Needless to say, I was pretty aggravated with it being handled through text. I tried to initiate discussion about it when I saw him in person, but he just got all "I don't know, I don't know." He pretty much insisted that it be handled remotely.
We still have class and lab together this semester. I'm pretty chill with being around him, but I can tell he feels really awkward. He said he wants to be friends like we were before, which I'm fine with and not too upset about, but he hasn't been pulling his weight on that end of the bargain. I figure I'll give it some time to see how it plays out.
- Kalimeris!
Kali: NO. FUN. *HUGS*
ReplyDeleteRandy: I have a really great breakup story -- 10 years ago, and I haven't had a relationship since.
October: We meet, our first date is a haunted house.
December: We are still dating, I've met his parents, I think we're good -- but he gives me Seven Habits of Highly Effective People for Christmas. For CHRISTMAS.
First week of January: He gets sick. REALLY sick. So sick he has to go back to Canada to get hospitalized. (He wasn't an American citizen yet). I say bye.
End of January: I FINALLY get his number from his parents, because he hasn't called me yet to let me know if he's even alive. He apologizes.
Valentine's: He calls because he thought he should.
Three weeks later: "I've been through a lot with the illness, and I got a job up here, I don't think I'm ready for a relationship right now." Me: "Okay, I understand."
Three weeks after that: Mass email. "I met this really great girl and we're getting married in May."
Yeah.
Kali: Hey! Thanks for reading and your comment. Its difficult dealing with stupid boys. I should know since I am one ;-) Hope the dude gets his act together or something.
ReplyDeleteJennie: That is completely screwed up. I totally think this world would be better if we were more honest with each other, you know?
Heh...I called you Jennie instead of Goosey...my bad
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